F'd up on Facebook

Dear Will,

Here we go...... I've been married for 8 years now. Me and my wife live in different houses. Her with her parents, me with mine. I got out of the Army last year. We have 4 children together. About a week ago we were seeing each other and I accused her of cheating... which she wasn't and we got into an argument. Well I went home that night and very immaturely wrote a rant about her on facebook and tagged her in it. Obviously, I pissed her off. Now she is ignoring the crap outta me and I can't see my kids. She blocked my number and blocked me on facebook. Like a stupid guy I tried writing her the following morning as well as call and she will not reply back. Totally and completely ignoring me. 

I'm trying to figure out what I should do and what she's going through. Will it pass? I'm very sorry for what I did and she's leaving me in the dark with everything. I feel completely lost cause I'm really in love with her, of course. and I have no excuse for my actions. I don't know what to really say on here but I need advice or some sort of insight.  

Thanks in advance.

Guilty

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Dear Guilty,

First I want to thank you for your service to the country.  Your hard work and dedication is very appreciated.

Now.  With your wife.  You F'd up. Rule #1: Don't air your dirty laundry on social media. #2: Always respect the mother of your children.  Even if you don't get along, she gave you the greatest gift in the world (4 times). Don't bash her in front of her friends, family and the world.  That's not cool.  She has every right to be upset with you right now.

You have already apologized and let her know you are sorry.  Now give her space. Leave her alone and let her calm down. Eventually she will speak to you.  She may never forgive you, but she will have to maintain contact with you for the kids.  

Remember, you messed up.  She's going to make you pay.  Give her time.  Do nothing. 

Good Luck.

Will

Confused and Questioning

Will,

Okay, I have always lived the "straight" life with a few guy/guy DL hookups here and there, but its always been just sex.  Last year, I made a friend who is openly gay and we became good friends, and did good around a bit, but no romantic overtones at the time, was always just for fun.  Well he has since moved away, and I find myself really missing him... and for the first time in my life, in looking back, I find that I was attracted to him emotionally as well.  So it has me wondering if I really am gay...

Wondering

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Dear Wondering,

Why do you have to put a label on it?  You are attracted to the person, not what they have between their legs. 

If you find yourself having strong feelings for someone and want to pursue it, tell them.  Who knows, they may have the same feelings in return.  You'll never know unless you start a conversation about it.

Will

Deep Throat & Gag Reflex

Dear Will,

So I admit I don't have a lot of sexual experience with guys but am very curious and want to explore and try new things.  I had a banana as part of my breakfast.  I was frisky and wanted to see how much of it I could deep throat.  I know I have a bad gag reflex but fit more than half in.  I've always wanted to take down a big cock and I'm wondering what are the tricks to deep throating or controlling your gag reflex?  Maybe I just need practice LOL. (:  Would love any advice or hints.

Charlie

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Dear Charlie,

The first and most important thing to remember is to breathe.  Breathe through your nose, relax, stay in control and most importantly, enjoy.  Practice does make perfect.  Take it slow and work your way up to taking it all.  

In my experience I have found that slow steady motions are better.  When you are working at a faster pace your gag reflex becomes more sensitive.  Plus most guys are turned on by the steady build up of speed and rhythm. 

Another thing that may help is Comfortable Numb Deep Throat Spray.  Just a couple of sprays of this will make your throat numb and temporarily stop your gag reflex long enough to get the job done. (pictured below) I'm sure you can find this product or one like it at any adult store but I have found it at Amazon. 

Happy Sucking,

Will

Link to: Comfortably-Numb-Deep-Throat-Spray AMAZON

Hanging Out In Our Briefs

Hi,

I'm an 18 year old guy.  My dad and I are staying at a buddy of his for the weekend.  They said to make this a real guys weekend and we should hang out in briefs. This seems weird, do guys really hang out in their briefs?

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Dear 18 year old guy.

Guys hanging out in their underwear is normal.  It's a bonding thing.  No women, Sports on the TV, Drinking beer while hanging out in your underwear...  It's the male version of a slumber party. However, with that said, if you don't feel comfortable hanging out with your dad and his buddy in your underwear... don't.

Others may think differently. Let's ask the audience,  If you have a different opinion please comment below and share your thoughts. 

Thanks for Asking Will.

If you have a question or need advice please email askwhatwillthinks@gmail.com or send a message using the tool on the right side of your screen.

Will

Is It Normal To Fantasize About The Same Sex?

Dear Will,

I am a straight married man and I'm very happy with my life.  I had a couple of gay experiences many moons ago and really no immediate desire to have any more at this time, but I find myself waking up to the thought of being with another guy pretty frequently.  I have a great sex life at home so it's not the lack of sex either.  Is this normal and do other guys have these same thoughts and dreams?

Jack

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Dear Jack, 

I believe this is completely normal and many guys have these thoughts, dreams and urges.  Even those who have never experienced being with another guy.  Only most men who identify as being straight will usually suppress the feelings and never tell anyone.  Some will act on it only with a stranger, maybe in a truck stop/book store setting.  Those who are comfortable with their sexuality will explore other worlds.  Some will like it, others wont. A lot of times the ones who do like it are more attracted to the excitement of doing something "wrong" or getting caught.  To each their own. If this is something you want to do, then by all means, do it.  It's your body.  However, if you are in a happy and loving relationship you may want to take that into consideration first.  Is it worth ruining a good thing if she were to find out?  If you talk to her about your feelings you never know, she may want to join in.  

Will

Sex Addiction

Dear Will,

My husband is addicted to sex.  He has been faithful, but is always ready for and wanting sex.  I can't keep up.  If we aren't having sex he is watching porn and taking care of business himself.  What do I do?

Angela 

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Dear Angela,

On a positive note, he is only sexually active with you and not having relations outside of the home. The first thing you should do is talk to him about it.  If this is something you feel that you can't live with there are many options available but he has to want to change before anything will work. When he is ready, there are several behavioral health centers all across the country.  I'm sure there is one in your area.  A great place to begin is Sex Addicts Anonymous.  Google local Sex Addiction Rehab Centers in your area or Mental Health Disorders in your area.

I hope this helps.
Will

https://saa-recovery.org

How To Deal With Being Bisexual

Dear Will,

Hi.  I wanna know how to deal with being bi.  Where do you meet other bi guys?  How do you get over the fear of telling someone that you're bi.  I could NEVER tell my friends.  Advice?

Closeted

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Dear Closeted,

Well. I'm not sure what kind of places, if any, are in your area and not sure if you are in a small town or a large city.  But for me, there is a local bar, not a club, where I like to go.  The people are friendly and it's very low key.  I have made several great friends there.  Another thing you may want to try are dating/hook-up apps like Scruff or Grindr.  I know that sounds crazy, but I have made several good friends on there as well.  They are not just for hooking up.  However, if that's what you're looking for. There it is.

As far as telling your friends, who says you have to?  It does make it easier if you are wanting to have a serious long term relationship with another man, but if you're just wanting hook ups then why does anyone have to know.  What goes on in your bedroom is no ones business but your own.  Although, if you do decide to come out to them, if they are true friends they will still be there for you.  Yes, it may seem awkward at first but it will pass.  If something like this causes you to loose a friend, they weren't real friends to begin with.  You have to do what makes you happy.  Having inner peace with yourself is the absolute most important thing. As LGBTQ Royalty "The Queen" RuPaul says, "If You Can't Love Yourself, How In The Hell Are You Gonna Love Somebody Else?"

Welcome to the family.  :-)

Will