Dear Will,
Here we go...... I've been married for 8 years now. Me and my wife live in different houses. Her with her parents, me with mine. I got out of the Army last year. We have 4 children together. About a week ago we were seeing each other and I accused her of cheating... which she wasn't and we got into an argument. Well I went home that night and very immaturely wrote a rant about her on facebook and tagged her in it. Obviously, I pissed her off. Now she is ignoring the crap outta me and I can't see my kids. She blocked my number and blocked me on facebook. Like a stupid guy I tried writing her the following morning as well as call and she will not reply back. Totally and completely ignoring me.
I'm trying to figure out what I should do and what she's going through. Will it pass? I'm very sorry for what I did and she's leaving me in the dark with everything. I feel completely lost cause I'm really in love with her, of course. and I have no excuse for my actions. I don't know what to really say on here but I need advice or some sort of insight.
Thanks in advance.
Guilty
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Dear Guilty,
First I want to thank you for your service to the country. Your hard work and dedication is very appreciated.
Now. With your wife. You F'd up. Rule #1: Don't air your dirty laundry on social media. #2: Always respect the mother of your children. Even if you don't get along, she gave you the greatest gift in the world (4 times). Don't bash her in front of her friends, family and the world. That's not cool. She has every right to be upset with you right now.
You have already apologized and let her know you are sorry. Now give her space. Leave her alone and let her calm down. Eventually she will speak to you. She may never forgive you, but she will have to maintain contact with you for the kids.
Remember, you messed up. She's going to make you pay. Give her time. Do nothing.
Good Luck.
Will
