Salon Drama

Dear Will,

I've debated on if I should send you this email or not.  I normally don't like to put my business out there but I really can't figure this one out on my own. 

I am a hair dresser and work for a chain salon.  When I chose to work for this company I made the decision because it pays commission and the company provides all of the products and supplies.  All other salon in town offer booth rental where I would have to pay rent to use the space, supply all products, and pay my own advertising.  Because I am new to town and don't have a clientele to support me I chose to go with the chain salon.  Since joining the team the company has made changes. Prices have been lowered and the criteria to earn commission has been raised resulting in me, and several other hair dressers, making minimum wage.  As you know, minimum wage is not enough to support m family.

I have been offered another job, not doing hair, that offers a steady income. Although, not enough to support m family but a great deal more than I make now.  Do I take the new job and leave a job that I absolutely love doing or keep doing what I love and hope for the best?

Please help.

CB

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Dear CB,

As I always say, you must follow your heart.  Obviously, you can't hear what your heart is trying to tell you so here is my opinion.

You have to do what's best for you and your family.  Often parents have to put their dreams on the back burner and do things they don't want to in order to provide for their families.  If it were me, I'd take the other job with the steady paycheck.  Once your finances have become more stable you may be in a position where you can return to the cosmetology industry.  I'm not sure the ages of your children and if there is another parent or family member who can help take care of the children, but maybe for a while working two jobs might be an option.  But first and foremost,  you have to do what's best for you and your family.  

Wet Dreams

Dear Will,

My name is Alex and I'm 10 years old.  My older brother is always making jokes about wet dreams and when I ask him what it is he just says "you'll know when you have one".  I asked my mom but she changed the subject. What is a wet dream and what's the big deal?

Alex

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Dear Alex,

A wet dream or Nocturnal Admissions, as it is also called, is not a bad thing or a big deal.  A wet dream happens mostly during puberty for boys.  During puberty you will have an erection at any time for no reason at all, during school, watching TV and especially while sleeping.  During an erection your body will produce sperm and will build up and will need to be released.  Normally sperm is released through sex and masturbation. Without sex and/or masturbation your body will naturally release the build up during the night, usually during a dream with a sexual nature.  

There is no way to stop a wet dream from happening. Every guy is different.  Some guys experience this several times a week and others may only experience it a few times in their life.  There is nothing to be ashamed of.  It is totally natural. Just one of the many inconveniences in life.  Simply clean yourself up and go on with your day. 

You may find a little more useful information HERE. 

Will

Hanging Out In Our Briefs

Hi,

I'm an 18 year old guy.  My dad and I are staying at a buddy of his for the weekend.  They said to make this a real guys weekend and we should hang out in briefs. This seems weird, do guys really hang out in their briefs?

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Dear 18 year old guy.

Guys hanging out in their underwear is normal.  It's a bonding thing.  No women, Sports on the TV, Drinking beer while hanging out in your underwear...  It's the male version of a slumber party. However, with that said, if you don't feel comfortable hanging out with your dad and his buddy in your underwear... don't.

Others may think differently. Let's ask the audience,  If you have a different opinion please comment below and share your thoughts. 

Thanks for Asking Will.

If you have a question or need advice please email askwhatwillthinks@gmail.com or send a message using the tool on the right side of your screen.

Will

Is It Normal To Fantasize About The Same Sex?

Dear Will,

I am a straight married man and I'm very happy with my life.  I had a couple of gay experiences many moons ago and really no immediate desire to have any more at this time, but I find myself waking up to the thought of being with another guy pretty frequently.  I have a great sex life at home so it's not the lack of sex either.  Is this normal and do other guys have these same thoughts and dreams?

Jack

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Dear Jack, 

I believe this is completely normal and many guys have these thoughts, dreams and urges.  Even those who have never experienced being with another guy.  Only most men who identify as being straight will usually suppress the feelings and never tell anyone.  Some will act on it only with a stranger, maybe in a truck stop/book store setting.  Those who are comfortable with their sexuality will explore other worlds.  Some will like it, others wont. A lot of times the ones who do like it are more attracted to the excitement of doing something "wrong" or getting caught.  To each their own. If this is something you want to do, then by all means, do it.  It's your body.  However, if you are in a happy and loving relationship you may want to take that into consideration first.  Is it worth ruining a good thing if she were to find out?  If you talk to her about your feelings you never know, she may want to join in.  

Will

Sex Addiction

Dear Will,

My husband is addicted to sex.  He has been faithful, but is always ready for and wanting sex.  I can't keep up.  If we aren't having sex he is watching porn and taking care of business himself.  What do I do?

Angela 

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Dear Angela,

On a positive note, he is only sexually active with you and not having relations outside of the home. The first thing you should do is talk to him about it.  If this is something you feel that you can't live with there are many options available but he has to want to change before anything will work. When he is ready, there are several behavioral health centers all across the country.  I'm sure there is one in your area.  A great place to begin is Sex Addicts Anonymous.  Google local Sex Addiction Rehab Centers in your area or Mental Health Disorders in your area.

I hope this helps.
Will

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