Dear Will,
Hi. I wanna know how to deal with being bi. Where do you meet other bi guys? How do you get over the fear of telling someone that you're bi. I could NEVER tell my friends. Advice?
Closeted
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Dear Closeted,
Well. I'm not sure what kind of places, if any, are in your area and not sure if you are in a small town or a large city. But for me, there is a local bar, not a club, where I like to go. The people are friendly and it's very low key. I have made several great friends there. Another thing you may want to try are dating/hook-up apps like Scruff or Grindr. I know that sounds crazy, but I have made several good friends on there as well. They are not just for hooking up. However, if that's what you're looking for. There it is.
As far as telling your friends, who says you have to? It does make it easier if you are wanting to have a serious long term relationship with another man, but if you're just wanting hook ups then why does anyone have to know. What goes on in your bedroom is no ones business but your own. Although, if you do decide to come out to them, if they are true friends they will still be there for you. Yes, it may seem awkward at first but it will pass. If something like this causes you to loose a friend, they weren't real friends to begin with. You have to do what makes you happy. Having inner peace with yourself is the absolute most important thing. As LGBTQ Royalty "The Queen" RuPaul says, "If You Can't Love Yourself, How In The Hell Are You Gonna Love Somebody Else?"
Welcome to the family. :-)
Will
