Wet Dreams

Dear Will,

My name is Alex and I'm 10 years old.  My older brother is always making jokes about wet dreams and when I ask him what it is he just says "you'll know when you have one".  I asked my mom but she changed the subject. What is a wet dream and what's the big deal?

Alex

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Dear Alex,

A wet dream or Nocturnal Admissions, as it is also called, is not a bad thing or a big deal.  A wet dream happens mostly during puberty for boys.  During puberty you will have an erection at any time for no reason at all, during school, watching TV and especially while sleeping.  During an erection your body will produce sperm and will build up and will need to be released.  Normally sperm is released through sex and masturbation. Without sex and/or masturbation your body will naturally release the build up during the night, usually during a dream with a sexual nature.  

There is no way to stop a wet dream from happening. Every guy is different.  Some guys experience this several times a week and others may only experience it a few times in their life.  There is nothing to be ashamed of.  It is totally natural. Just one of the many inconveniences in life.  Simply clean yourself up and go on with your day. 

You may find a little more useful information HERE. 

Will

I Know My Son Is Gay. Now What?

Dear Will,

How does a mom let her 18 year old son know she knows he prefers boys?  I've known since he was 5 or 6 years old.

HELP!!!

T.

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Dear T.

This is an easy yet complex situation.  The easiest thing (and probably the best) to do is nothing at all. Just wait and let him tell you when he is ready.  You don't want to run out and buy your PFLAG accessories just yet.  However, with that said, let your feelings be known.  Bring up gay topics and issues in casual conversation so that he knows whether or not you are accepting of a gay son.  If you are, let him know that it's okay for him to come to you about anything.  This reminds me of the episode of Ugly Betty where the family has discovered that Justin is gay.  Hilda decorates the house for a surprise coming out party.  It looked like a bag of skittles exploded in the room.  Don't do that. You'll cause him to undergo years of unnecessary therapy.  

Will

Watch the video -->   Ugly Betty - Justin Comes Out 

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Get Up & Get Out

I am 23 and live in Birmingham, AL.  About 3 months ago my parents told me that I had until the end of the year to enroll in school or get a job and start paying rent.  I honestly thought they were just talkin sh$# like they always do.  But on January 1st they kicked me out.  They won't even talk to me about moving back in until I have a job and can pay them rent.  Right now I'm sleeping on a buddies couch, but he says I can only stay for a couple of weeks.  How do I get them to let me move back in with them?

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Um, it seems your parents have made it pretty clear.  GET A JOB!!!