Salon Drama

Dear Will,

I've debated on if I should send you this email or not.  I normally don't like to put my business out there but I really can't figure this one out on my own. 

I am a hair dresser and work for a chain salon.  When I chose to work for this company I made the decision because it pays commission and the company provides all of the products and supplies.  All other salon in town offer booth rental where I would have to pay rent to use the space, supply all products, and pay my own advertising.  Because I am new to town and don't have a clientele to support me I chose to go with the chain salon.  Since joining the team the company has made changes. Prices have been lowered and the criteria to earn commission has been raised resulting in me, and several other hair dressers, making minimum wage.  As you know, minimum wage is not enough to support m family.

I have been offered another job, not doing hair, that offers a steady income. Although, not enough to support m family but a great deal more than I make now.  Do I take the new job and leave a job that I absolutely love doing or keep doing what I love and hope for the best?

Please help.

CB

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Dear CB,

As I always say, you must follow your heart.  Obviously, you can't hear what your heart is trying to tell you so here is my opinion.

You have to do what's best for you and your family.  Often parents have to put their dreams on the back burner and do things they don't want to in order to provide for their families.  If it were me, I'd take the other job with the steady paycheck.  Once your finances have become more stable you may be in a position where you can return to the cosmetology industry.  I'm not sure the ages of your children and if there is another parent or family member who can help take care of the children, but maybe for a while working two jobs might be an option.  But first and foremost,  you have to do what's best for you and your family.  

Wet Dreams

Dear Will,

My name is Alex and I'm 10 years old.  My older brother is always making jokes about wet dreams and when I ask him what it is he just says "you'll know when you have one".  I asked my mom but she changed the subject. What is a wet dream and what's the big deal?

Alex

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Dear Alex,

A wet dream or Nocturnal Admissions, as it is also called, is not a bad thing or a big deal.  A wet dream happens mostly during puberty for boys.  During puberty you will have an erection at any time for no reason at all, during school, watching TV and especially while sleeping.  During an erection your body will produce sperm and will build up and will need to be released.  Normally sperm is released through sex and masturbation. Without sex and/or masturbation your body will naturally release the build up during the night, usually during a dream with a sexual nature.  

There is no way to stop a wet dream from happening. Every guy is different.  Some guys experience this several times a week and others may only experience it a few times in their life.  There is nothing to be ashamed of.  It is totally natural. Just one of the many inconveniences in life.  Simply clean yourself up and go on with your day. 

You may find a little more useful information HERE. 

Will

Heart Broken

Dear Will,

I have been seeing this guy for the past two months.  He is perfect in every way and everything is going great… That was until today.  Let’s just say the old saying “If something seems too good to be true it probably is” definitely applies here.  Today at lunch he said he needed to tell me something.  He has a boyfriend and they have been together for over a year.  We live in Chicago and the boyfriend lives in Austin, Texas.  Obviously, I’m crushed.  It has been many years since I have allowed myself to develop feelings for someone.  I keep a wall up and don’t let guys get too close, emotionally, in order to keep from getting hurt.  But this time I let my guard down and developed strong feelings for him and felt that he had strong feelings in return. 

He said the relationship between him and the boyfriend isn’t working out.  The distance is too far; they only see each other two to three times a year but talk every day.   I tried to muster up enough strength and humility to remain calm and ask questions about the relationship.  I told him that if he didn’t see a future with this guy he needed to talk to him.  It’s wouldn’t be fair the other guy nor himself.  I couldn’t get through lunch fast enough.  I wanted to get out of there before I broke down and began to cry.

I do still have feelings for him but don’t want to be “the other man” or anyone’s second choice out of convenience.  Also, if he is seeing me while seeing someone else without telling either one of us, what’s to say he won’t see other guys behind my back?

What do I do?

Heart Broken & Confused

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Dear Heart Broken & Confused,

The heart is such a fragile and delicate part of the body.  Not only can it physically be damaged, but emotionally and spiritually bruised and broken.  You must be careful who you give it to.  You’re smart to have “the wall” up but you can’t keep it up forever.  What will happen when Mr. Right comes along and you miss him because your wall was too high?  Love is a gamble and you have to take chances.   Yes, it’s going to hurt from time to time, but it will only make you stronger and wiser. 

As for this guy, step back.  Take some time away from him.  Give him a chance to take care of Mr. Texas.  Wait and see if he does indeed end things with him or if he was just blowing hot air.  Wait a few weeks and see if you still have feelings for him.  In the meantime, go about your daily life as normal.   Who knows, he may end up being Mr. Right, or Mr. Right may come along while you’re waiting to see what transpires.  Keep your chin up and know that none of this is your fault.  I wish you the best and I know you will find your soul mate.  It will happen when it’s supposed to happen.  You must be patient. 

Will

Get Up & Get Out

I am 23 and live in Birmingham, AL.  About 3 months ago my parents told me that I had until the end of the year to enroll in school or get a job and start paying rent.  I honestly thought they were just talkin sh$# like they always do.  But on January 1st they kicked me out.  They won't even talk to me about moving back in until I have a job and can pay them rent.  Right now I'm sleeping on a buddies couch, but he says I can only stay for a couple of weeks.  How do I get them to let me move back in with them?

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Um, it seems your parents have made it pretty clear.  GET A JOB!!!