Showing posts with label PFLAG. Show all posts
Showing posts with label PFLAG. Show all posts

Monday, April 13, 2015

Prom Date

Dear Will,

My son is an openly gay senior in high school.  Everyone knows about his sexuality including the school administration and no one has a problem with it. My son does not have a "boyfriend" but does have a close gay friend that he spends a lot of time with who also goes to the same school but is a year younger. 

Yesterday, he came to me and told me that he was going to the prom, which is this weekend.  I assumed he would be going alone or with a friend, a girl.  But he said he was taking Jason, his gay friend.  I of course and thrilled he has the courage to take someone he likes to prom, but I am concerned that there may be issues with bullying and or issues with the school administration with him bringing another guy to the prom.  I asked my son if he was worried about these things and he said he had it covered.  He has already gotten permission from the principal for the two of them to attend together as well as already told everyone at school.  He says everyone is cool with it.  Am I just being an over protective parent?

Proud PFLAG Mom.

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Dear Proud PFLAG Mom,

Your son sounds like a remarkable young man.  It sounds like he has all of his bases covered by checking with the principal as well as other students and faculty, It is wonderful that he is able to be open about his sexuality at a young age and has the courage to attend his senior prom with another guy.  I admire that.  

You do have reason to be concerned.  There is a lot of bullying and jerks out in the world today, but it is also 2015, times are changing for the better.  Relax.  The school is aware of what is going on and will protect them at the best of their ability.  He will be surrounded by friends.  

I hope he has a wonderful time at the Prom and makes many wonderful memories.

Will

Thursday, January 22, 2015

I Know My Son Is Gay. Now What?

Dear Will,

How does a mom let her 18 year old son know she knows he prefers boys?  I've known since he was 5 or 6 years old.

HELP!!!

T.

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Dear T.

This is an easy yet complex situation.  The easiest thing (and probably the best) to do is nothing at all. Just wait and let him tell you when he is ready.  You don't want to run out and buy your PFLAG accessories just yet.  However, with that said, let your feelings be known.  Bring up gay topics and issues in casual conversation so that he knows whether or not you are accepting of a gay son.  If you are, let him know that it's okay for him to come to you about anything.  This reminds me of the episode of Ugly Betty where the family has discovered that Justin is gay.  Hilda decorates the house for a surprise coming out party.  It looked like a bag of skittles exploded in the room.  Don't do that. You'll cause him to undergo years of unnecessary therapy.  

Will

Watch the video -->   Ugly Betty - Justin Comes Out